Last night, right before bed, I was on weddingbee.com and read this post, "After I Do: Wedding Regrets". I read the whole thing and thought "how helpful...now I can see what other brides regretted after their wedding days and make sure those things don't happen to me." I really enjoyed reading it and find that community to be very helpful!
So last night, after reading that post, all I could think about was the wedding as I laid there for hours! This is not like me, I usually fall asleep immediately and have never been one of those people who lays in bed and worries all night. But last night I did as I got to thinking about all of those things that I haven't given much thought to...particularly the music. What are we doing about ceremony musicians? What are we doing about cocktail hour musicians? When am I going to talk to my DJ about the songs I want played? Even more scary, when am I going to think about and decide which songs I want played?!?! I haven't thought about any of this. Then came the negative thoughts about linen and chairs and videographers, and whether or not the Mansion on Peachtree is going to let me float candles in the reflection pond. AHHH!!! Could reading about brides' regrets really trigger all of these worries, especially when I didn't even know I was worried?! Maybe reading about regrets was just the little nudge that I needed to get to thinking about these things!
Since I am a therapist, I am going to follow my own advice which I've given so many of my clients in the past and get back to being solution-focused! So, my main goal this week is to tackle the music. Contact a harpist (remember that reflection pond with the floating candles I so desperately want? Yes, a harpist would complete the scene!), start compiling a song list and a "do not play" list, and relax and realize that all of the music stuff will come together just fine.
What is your wedding-related worry? If you're already married, do you regret anything about your day?